Posts Tagged ‘Religion’

Resiliency as a Game

July 13, 2008

I coined the term wild resiliency to reference a particular style of resilience: the resilience that grows and is rooted in our love of life. Out of this love grows our willingness to transform, in the service of Life.

The intention here is to contrast this impulse for openness and transformation against the kind of resilience that keeps us bouncing back to old and bad habits, living in a stagnation of values and vision, domesticated to living in the corral with the herd, fenced in by the rules of should and should not….

James Carse, in his book, Finite and Infinite Games, speaks to this distinction well.

The finite game is played for the purpose of winning,
An infinite game for the purpose of continuing the play.

The rules of a finite game may not change;
The rules of an infinite game must change.

Finite players play with boundaries;
Infinite players play with boundaries.

There is a provocative lecture video, sponsored by The Long Now Foundation, of Mr. Carse speaking on how this distinction plays out in War and Religion. It is part of their Seminars About Long Term Thinking (SALT) series and worth the time it takes to listen.

About 57 minutes into the video however, in response to a question, Mr. Carse speaks about the role of poets as players of these games. And with a disturbing eloquence, he speaks about poets, as players of infinite games, being our hope for the future. I rate it as ‘must listen,’ particularly for poets, writers, and artists of all stripes.

You can also read a synopsis by Stewart Brand here.

Understanding the Power of Worldviews

May 1, 2008

The Rockridge Institute is committed to the democratization of knowledge about politics. Our mission is to deepen and broaden the public’s understanding of the political world. Rockridge studies the worldviews, values and ideas behind conservative and progressive policies, issues and political discourse.” So begins the About Us page of The Rockridge Institute’s web site. Now however, as of April ’08, is also the notice that Rockridge has closed its doors. George Lakoff and collegues there have done much to further our understanding of the power of our worldviews to shape our perceptions… and in understanding how it is we come to our worldviews as well.

Take for example this simple and potent statement from their The Rockridge Era Ends notice, listed as one of the reasons for their demise:

The Enlightenment Reason Problem: Progressives commonly believe in some version of Enlightenment Reason, which says that reason is conscious, dispassionate, logical, universal, literal (it directly fits the world), and interest-based. The cognitive and brain sciences have shown this is false in every respect…

Say What!? What can they mean that reason is not… well, reasonable? Well there is a load of resource material on this issue in their online archives… and the discussion reminds me of a conversation (argument, really) I had with my father. For those not familiar with this blog, you need to know he was a fundamentalist Christian preacher; and we happened to be the only Christian group going to Heaven.

I began struggling with doubts as a student in high school, and by the time I was a senior, I engaged in a serious search for Truth (note the capital ‘T’). Of course I had to study other religious traditions if I was to be confident we possessed this elite elixir of salvation. And so began the conversation one Sunday when I wanted to borrow the family car to attend an Islamic worship service, excerpted below from my memoir in progress:

The folks had not minded too much when, out of curiosity, I attended Baptist and Methodist… churches. But my desire to attend the Mosque resulted in a fight; I might as well have wanted to attend a Catholic Mass. Dad and I often engage in such religious arguments now. Dad asks why I want to go…”to a what?”

“A Mosque. It’s like an Islamic church. And I want to go because I’m searching for Truth. If we have it, then what are you afraid of?”

“I’m not afraid. I have my faith in God, and in Christ. I believe the Bible is from God and I hope to hear on the Judgment Day, ‘Well done thou good and faithful servant…”

I now often aggressively cut Dad off in such arguments before he can finish his sentences; I already know his answers. He has become a parrot to me-repeating the same formula answers with never even an original twist of wording. I want to throw a rock through the window he looks out upon the world through….

“Are you afraid I might find out the Muslims have the Truth?”

“No…”

“Have you ever studied Islam? Or Buddhism, or Hinduism?”

“No. I… why would I…”

“Then how can you say you have the Truth?”

“Because Christ rose from the dead. That’s proof he was God’s Son. I choose to have faith in him. Mohammad and Buddha, neither one of them rose from the dead. Did they?”

“No, but Buddha was born out of his mother’s side, and he came out talking like an adult. That ought to account for something. Investigation at least.”

Dad mocked the silliness of taking seriously a talking baby being born out of his mother’s side. Who could ever compare such a primitive pagan myth to the virgin born Christ dying on the cross for our sins and then…rising from the dead?

“And Mohammad didn’t have to return from the dead,” I continued. “He left his proof that he was God’s prophet right here, on earth. It’s like this everlasting miracle that people can still touch today if they want. You say Christ rose from the dead but you have to believe it on faith…”

“Well, there is no other reasonable explanation for why his disciples would be willing to risk their lives…”

Now we cut each other off and our voices rise in competition for a listener.

“Do you even know what Mohammad’s miracle, his proof, is?”

“No, but…”

“It’s the Koran. Mohammad was an uneducated camel driver who spent his time hanging out in this mountain cave talking to God. Then people started writing down what God was telling him, and…that’s how we have the Koran. He was a completely uneducated man. Yet he authored what the Muslims claim is the most beautiful piece of Arabic literature ever to be written. That’s his everlasting miracle.”

“That’s what they claim, anyway. And that’s why I want to go check them out.”

Mother is present the whole time, but stands off to one side, safely out of the line of fire. She never likes us raising our voices this way and is now clearly agitated. She paces a bit and begins to wring her hands together and then finally, to use a phrase she herself often used, she can no longer “bite her tongue.”

Speaking of her faith in God and Christ, she says: “I don’t care if it’s true or not. I’m going to believe it anyway! That’s what faith is! Life is not worth living without it.”

Mom’s simple honesty emptied my lungs of air and ended the argument. There was no fighting against such a faith of abandonment and clarity. She said what Dad could not, or would not… and in doing so she gave me a gift that day that took years to unwrap, even as I now took a “life not worth living,” as the cloak of a mother’s curse upon my own life.

So here I offer a personal “Thank You” to all the folks of The Rockridge community. Your work helps me with understanding, and with the humility to be a learner… in the midst of those with whom I differ. Your offering helps us have higher levels of thinking and of conversation… when we have the courage to lean into the power of our worldviews… to reciprocally shape our perceptions of self and the world.

Note: Thanks to Kent at The Golden State for passing along the Rockridge closing notice.

The Power of a Worldview

March 23, 2008

“I’d like to experiment with ways of helping people make their worldviews conscious to themselves. You got any ideas?” This from my friend and colleague, Tom Wojick, at The Renewal Group.

“Great!” was my response. “I think that is such a vital piece of the work….” And we began a provocative conversation about why this is important, and about some possible tools and techniques we might use with corporate clients.

This territory of our ‘worldviews’ is part of the bio-psycho-social self I reference in the Wild Resiliency model as The Power of Arrival — a Self in the World. In developing the model, I too was looking for ways to help us become aware of our own personal worldviews, of the potent power they carry… that we might better walk in the worldview of our neighbor… that we might realize the creative and reciprocal mirroring we bring to the selection of our worldviews….

My father, for example, in the selection of his Fundamentalist “hellfire and brimstone” God, could not see the cascading implications his religion would have on his life. That he would be required to have enemies, for example, as a result of perceiving himself to live in a world of literal spiritual warfare between Good and Evil, was surely not part of his decision matrix.

Surely also he did not consider the rippling implications, as he dedicated his life to being an evangelist for this God, of what it is to be treated as an object, to be saved if deemed worthy or cast aside into eternal damnation if judged unworthy. How could he have seen his choice of a God would lead him to treating the world and his family with the same kind of regard his God treated him with? That we and the universe were denied the mystery of our being, that each were solidified and reduced to the objects… how could he have seen what he did not know?

How could my father have perceived the potency of his worldview to even determine what was allowable for him to think… or not to think? His worldview, after all, forbade the very act of questioning as a sinful path leading to hell. Once the head is abandoned, in favor of externalized authority, once the heart’s allegiance is given to the same, once the body’s desires are named as evil, once the world is divided into us and them… “You’re either for us or against us,” well…

The nightly news informs us of the cascading consequences of such a worldview: the war in Iraq, global climate destabilization and change, exacerbated water and resource shortages, terrorism in the name of beauty… poisons that arise out of worldviews of separation from nature, of separation from the numinous….

The brain is a stubborn organ. Once its primary set of beliefs has been established, the brain finds it difficult to integrate opposing ideas and beliefs. This has profound consequences for individuals and society and helps to explain why some people cannot abandon destructive beliefs, be they religious, political, or psychological. — Andrew Newberg and Mark Waldman, Born to Believe: God, Science, and the Origins of Ordinary and Extraordinary Beliefs

This challenge of becoming aware of our worldviews… is also the challenge of becoming aware of the resilient shadows they cast. It is also the challenge of learning to exploring the territories that open and close to our perceptions as we dress ourselves in our worldviews, in their sensory permissions. Oh, this is such fertile soil for helping us nurture into being the future we would choose; in our families, our personal lives, our businesses, and in our communities. And yes, in the world too.

It seems fitting here to demonstrate The Power of Arrival, the power of one’s worldview, with these excerpted quotes from the diaries of someone we love. (Author unknown.)

Excerpts from a Dog’s Diary…Jane

8:00 am – Dog food! My favorite thing!
9:30 am – A car ride! My favorite thing!
9:40 am – A walk in the park! My favorite thing!
10:30 am – Got rubbed and petted! My favorite thing!
12:00 pm – Lunch! My favorite thing!
1:00 pm – Played in the yard! My favorite thing!
3:00 pm – Wagged my tail! My favorite thing!
5:00 pm – Milk bones! My favorite thing!
7:00 pm – Got to play ball! My favorite thing!
8:00 pm – Wow! Watched TV with the people! My favorite thing!
11:00 pm – Sleeping on the bed! My favorite thing!

Excerpts from a Cat’s Daily Diary …

Day 983 of my captivity.

My captors continue to taunt me with bizarre little dangling objects. They dineSephe lavishly on fresh meat, while the other inmates and I are fed hash or some sort of dry nuggets. Although I make my contempt for the rations perfectly clear, I, nevertheless, must eat something in order to keep up my strength.

The only thing that keeps me going is my dream of escape. In an attempt to disgust them, I once again vomit on the carpet.

Today, I decapitated a mouse and dropped its headless body at their feet. I had hoped this would strike fear into their hearts, since it clearly demonstrates what I am capable of. However, they merely made condescending comments about what a ‘good little hunter’ I am. Bastards.

There was some sort of assembly of their accomplices tonight. I was placed in solitary confinement for the duration of the event. However, I could hear the noises, and smell the food. I overheard that my confinement was due to the power of ‘allergies’. I must learn what this means, and how to use it to my advantage.

Today, I was almost successful in an attempt to assassinate one of my tormentors by weaving around his feet as he was walking. I must try this again tomorrow — but at the top of the stairs.

I am convinced that the other prisoners here are flunkies and snitches. The dog receives special privileges. He is regularly released – and seems to be more than willing to return. He is obviously retarded.

The bird has got to be an informant. I observe him communicating with the guards regularly. I am certain that he reports my every move. My captors have arranged protective custody for him in an elevated cell, so he is safe. For now…

My Brother the Mutt-Theist!

March 16, 2008

I hiked in the beautiful spring weather today with my younger brother, Joe. We went a gentle ways up a small and relatively unknown local canyon with spring-melt runoff rushing downstream, as if it might be on its way to the ocean. Cottonwood trees and junipers and ponderosa pines line the banks of the little stream.

It is a very sweet canyon in the southern Rockies that, as Joe says, lets you hike back into time. The hike begins its wander among blocks of tilted sandstone with occasional fossils in it. Soon enough one crosses into a geologically older layer of limestone — made of the countless shells from creatures living millions of years ago; the structure of their stems is still visible in places if one knows how to see them.

And then within a short distance further we were at the little cascading waterfall which, I in particular, had come to see. We don’t have a lot of free running water around here so such gurgling and splashing is highly valued.

Now however, this little side drainage, as well as the main canyon, are all sidewalls and bedrock of yet geologically older granite. We have indeed walked back through time, though our fundamentalist and evangelist father would prefer to consider it as all created but some 6,000 thousand years or so ago.

That is as dated by the Biblical literalist Bishop Ussher, of course. The lesson for all Biblical fundamentalists, is that if you are going to interpret the Bible literally, be sure to pick and choose your Truth carefully! Otherwise you increase the likelihood your children will depart from your Truth.

It is interesting to see how each of my siblings (5 of us in all) have adjusted and adapted to inherited Truth, and to the ‘world-as-it-is’, given the strength of our Fundamentalist Christian upbringing. Joe, for example, ended up with a BS degree in Geology. He subsequently makes a great hiking partner, given his personality and knowledge about time; but he no longer makes a good Fundamentalist.

No. Joe is now a self-described Mutt-Theist.

That is, he is not proud about where he finds his inspiration and guidance in life. He embraces beauty and truth and joy… wherever he encounters them, from whatever the source. His argument is that mutts are more hardy and resilient than pure breeds. And so he says he has founded the Church of the Mutt-Theists.

Now I know others argue for the discipline and practice of a tradition. “A timeHead of Slot Canyon honored container will help you plumb the depths of spiritual practice,” they say. “Otherwise it is too easy to be a spiritual dilettante…” the argument goes.

They are correct in this fundamentalist attitude, of course, so long as it works for them. Their warnings against dilly-dallying in this and that is rightly taken as a caution against using one’s search to avoid… one’s Self; Any religious or even political structure however, it seems to me, can be used to help us avoid whatever it is we find uncomfortable to encounter, even if it be truth. Or the divine.

Form and structure have their gifts and their place; our mental models give us the familiarity of the world as we know it. Their danger is that we confuse their structure for the territory, our worldview maps… for the world-as-it-is.

Antelope CanyonTheir gift is the creation of containers and boundaries within which we can explore freedom and expression… as ever artist knows. This gift is however only received within the context of a reciprocal relationship, one in which the worldview shapes us even as we embrace it; the canyon we hike in contains the stream which shapes it.

Learning to respect this power of our worldviews, as attractors of hearts and minds and shapers of what even is perceivable by ourselves and by others, surely this is one of the primary challenges of our time. This challenge is, elementally, the invitation to honor the Other. Yes, this means Life invites me to honor all the faces of Fundamentalism, including my father’s. And my own, too!

But today I saw the one-man-church of the Mutt-Theists in action. I saw eyes and a heart filled with beauty and awe and gratitude. His very Being radiated with the joy of wandering through time on this sunny spring day. (I saw my first butterfly of the season!)

Even if our father does say, “You are not the sons I’d want you to be,” even if he now fears for his own soul… believing his sons are bound for Hell, and that he might be at cause… even so…

I am proud of my brother Joe, the Mutt-Theist. I am proud of his wild resilience, his capacity and willingness to let his mind shape-shift to a more accurate perception of the world-as-it-is, as it presents itself to us, rather than submitting to the unquestioning acceptance of inherited dogma.

Don’t get me wrong here. I love to hike over and through layers of sandstone or of limestone or of granite. And I’m not prejudice against conglomerates or metamorphosed rocks either. I love rocks, whatever their theological origins. I love their solidity and colors and textures and shapes and variety…. I just don’t carry as many home in my pockets as my brother Joe does.

And I also do not wish to construct my own sense of self with the solidity of thewaterdrops graven image of Truth. Like rock, like a rigid or too narrow a worldview, Truth is mighty subject to fracturing and erosion.

Water does cut rock after all. So I figure it’s good to re-member that liquid gurgling playful part of a Self too. Yep. I’d like to go resiliently dancing through Life, always flowing back to the source, of which we each already… are One with.

At least, in my worldview. My brother the Mutt-Theist, I think he would agree.

Let the Beauty of What You Love Be What You Do!

December 21, 2007

Ever notice how easy it is to orient your life by Fear?

I have. I’ve even been struggling with that Dragon a bit of late. Not surprising I suppose, given that I grew up suckling on Fear as if it were mother’s milk.

Yep, Fear and I, we go way back; back to Dad’s whipping me to beat the sin out of me; back to Mom slapping me in the face as a child to make me into a good little preacher’s son; back to God promising to throw me into hell if I didn’t stop masturbating; back to me needing to feel special as a defense against the terrors of a hostile world masquerading as a God of Love…

Gets so a guy can become right afraid to even breathe, as if he doesn’t deserve the life force that animates him. Gets so a person starts to orient their life by what other folks think of him… whether he wears the right clothes or has the right thoughts or hangs with the right people or believes the right beliefs….

Pretty soon it get so as a guy can’t even trust his own sense of distinction between Fear and Love cause he’s so busy constructing a world of good and of evil, of right and wrong, of black and white, of them and us, the saved and the sinners, the terrorists and… God’s chosen. Yep. The personal stories vary only by degree (the value of an ‘extreme’ is not to be underestimated) but the themes remain the same: Fear and Love, insufficiency and sufficiency, good enough and never good enough, power-over and power-within, war and peace….

Opps! But as long as we’re here—

Ever notice how war feeds off Fear? Or do you think it more accurate to say, “War feeds Fear?” “Fear feeds war?” I can’t rightly say but I do know I’ve been a man at war with himself of late, standing at one of Life’s crossroads and fearing a mistake if….

That Fear can paralyze you like you were Bambie in its headlights if you let it.

Yep. Don’t matter if it’s driving the latest model of Predator or Parasite… Don’t matter if it’s called Al Quieda or Satan or “You won’t be able to pay the rent!” or “Your friends are going to hate you!” or “Give up your rights to save your life!” or “She won’t love me anymore if she see who I really am!”

Yep. There are a thousand ways to kneel and feed the Beast.

Sort of reminds me of a Rumi poem, translator unknown:

Lissy on Wilderness Weekend Program

Today, like every other day, I wake up empty and frightened.

Don’t go to the door of the study and read a book.

Instead, take down the dulcimer,

let the beauty of what you love be what you do.

There are a thousand ways to kneel and kiss the ground,

there are a thousand ways to go home again.

—Quoted by Angeles Arrien in The Frabic of the Future, pg 101

Then there’s the Rumi lines:

Let yourself be silently drawn

by the stronger pull

of what you truly love.

OK, now I admit I’m thinking of an earlier post on this blog and what I think of as Life’s Two Fiery Questions:

There are only two questions:
“What shall I feed myself, today:
Fear? or Love?”

And the second question is this:
“What shall I make of myself,
As a sacrifice of flesh and spirit,
Upon which the world will feed?”

Guess I better start upping my intake (and output) of Love! How else is a man to find the trust to orient his life by some innate sense of… how Life would have him move? How else will I (or your?) find the courage to even trust Life?

How else will any of us find Peace?

Resiliency Dancing: Play for Your Life!

September 28, 2007

“I don’t know how to play,” the man said to me. The statement carried a certain intimacy simply because the man speaking is one of my brothers.Boy in Fountain

Mythologist Joseph Campbell’s admonition to, “Follow your bliss,” would have been heard as a promotion of hedonism in our fundamentalist childhood home. Yep, there was a reason God kicked Adam and Eve out of the Garden, and the deep underlying message we took out of that literal reading of the Bible is that—the desires and curiosities of the flesh and mind are not to be trusted. Play, pleasure and fun… can simply be inclinations of your own (God given) body that the devil might use at any unsuspecting moment to tempt you into an eternal life of ‘hell fire and brimstone.’

It was a dangerous world we grew up in, a world of cosmic spiritual warfare where seriousness was appropriate and laughter… well, it escaped occasionally, but life was anchored in the somberness of our vulnerable human circumstance. Enter Dr. Stuart Brown, physician and psychiatrist, and founder of the National Institute for Play. “…he discovered play deprivation across the lifespan of homicidal young men. And he observed an active play life as a quality of healthy individuals.”

“A playful life,” he writes, “contributes directly to the capacity to approach and solve complex life problems.” He also speaks of “guilt free purposelessness,” and of the ‘science of play,’ and of the ‘natural history of play.’ The later is particularly appropriate since he “found little serious science on human play. But he discovered a rich world of study in the work of Jane Goodall and other biologists engaged with intelligent social animals.” I encountered his work through a link to American Public Media, and an interview with Krista Tippett on the Speaking of Faith series: Play, Spirit and Character.

You can watch an incredible encounter there between a polar bear in the CanadianPolar Bear and Husky Arctic and a Husky sled dog, as well as listen to or download an audio or a transcript of the interview; highly recommended. One point of the bear/dog encounter for me is this, and it has also to do with what I will call presence:

When we show up to life in a spirit of play, in a spirit of creative spontaneous openness, our own soul encounters the ‘soul of the world’ in a dance of cosmic emergence where —— previously undreamed of possibilities open before us.

…when you see animals and humans who are deprived of it [play], they are fixed and rigid in their responses to complex stimuli. They don’t have a repertoire of choices that are as broad as their intelligence should allow them to have. And they don’t seek out novelty and newness, which is part of an essential aspect of play, both in animals and humans. So if you look at the human situation, at least for the last 200,000 years or so, our capacity as a species is to adapt, whether we’re in the Arctic or the tropics, the desert or a rain forest, appears to me to be related significantly to our capacity and, as developing creatures, to play.

And then if you look more closely at the human being, you find that the human being really is designed biologically to play throughout the life cycle. And that, and from my standpoint as a clinician, when one really doesn’t play at all or very little in adulthood, there are consequences: rigidities, depression, lack of adaptability, no irony – you know, things that are pretty important, that enable us to cope in a world of many demands.

I don’t know about you but in the world I live in, the pressures and demands and turmoil and fears…well, they’d simply take over my life if I let them; they are some of the parasites and predators of our era. Maybe that’s why one of the ways I think of freedom is “the capacity to place my attention where I choose.” And in our world, such a freedom is no small achievement.

Neither is the capacity and ability and willingness to play, particularly if you’ve been raised to not trust the impulse. It is the re-membering of such forbidden innate impulses that I consider to be an aspect of wild resiliency at its finest, a returning to the wholeness of our own deep nature. And each of my brothers and sister are teachers to me in this realm; they each have learned to dance with resiliency in their own way, to live life by their own rules.

You look at the successful lives of people who have really made a difference in human society, and what you find is that they didn’t do things by the rules. They, in fact, insisted on making their own rules. They were playful people…

No one becomes a great inventor or a great scientist or a great writer or anything else, unless they love what they do. Because you have to really be able to invest your entire soul into something. And if you can’t play at it, if you can’t just do something because you enjoy it, then you can’t do it completely enough or long enough to succeed at it.

So go play as if your life depends upon it; go play for your life! Go outside and play. It is one of the ways your can dance with your resiliency, nourish it, feed it, be it.

Note: this post is the first of an ongoing series with this theme of Resiliency Dancing. I look at resiliency as more of a field phenomen that we stand in relationship to, than as a muscle we develop, or even as something we ourselves possess.

Also, as resource notes in regard to resiliency and play, I highly recommend the following:

Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience
Stephen Nachmanovitch, Free Play: Improvisation in Life and Art
Diane Ackerman, Deep Play

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